It was one Thursday afternoon and I was working part-time and I had just come back home from work. When I came in, I saw that the part above my son’s eyelid was swollen and red. I freaked out! Ran to the pediatrician right away and I was told it was a mosquito bite and he needed to take antibiotics for that. I was like he didn’t even go outside and stayed home all day and yet he had a mosquito bite? He did get better overtime. However he needed an injection for it before he was discharged.
I was more like, why did he have to be bitten by a mosquito in the first place? Why did the mosquito bite only him and not anyone else who were around? And why near his eye? I cried for the first time in the doctor’s office more than my son did when he got that injection and looking at his swollen eyelid!
As a new Mom there are so many things we don’t know, we trust our pediatrician, sometimes our best friend ‘google’, and sometimes our parents and friends advice. And especially when you have not really been around babies or kids while growing up, it makes it much more harder. Most of the times however, I say trust your instincts for advice.
1. The first time my son got a cold, I suffered more than he did, I’m sure. Spent a few sleepless nights checking his temperature every now and then, and going back to the doctor every 2 days.
2. When my son started to roll over at around 3.5 months and later when he became an expert at it, he preferred sleeping on his tummy all night. Every time I put him to bed straight on his back, he rolled right away to his tummy. I suddenly remembered SIDS (sudden infant death syndrome) and started having all crazy thoughts afraid of things like ‘what if he can’t breathe’? And actually stayed up through the night turning him over every time he rolled onto his tummy. My husband and me took turns staying up the night. Later, someone at work told me, Umm…I suggest you talk to his pediatrician, friends can advice, but sometimes only when you talk to the doctor you can get over your paranoia. ”You don’t need to worry about SIDS when they rollover and can lift their head up”!
3. Never had my son sleep next to me on my bed until he was 3 months, afraid that I will fall on him, despite the fact that I am an extremely light sleeper and can wake up at the drop of a thing on the ground!
The first time your kid gets a cold, gets fever, gets hurt, goes to daycare/ preschool; it’s more taxing on the Mom than the kid him/herself. Running to the doctor every 2 weeks, just to be safe, is usual in most households I bet!
Now I am much more relaxed. I know I cannot avoid him getting sick anytime, although it still does break my heart to see him in “that way”. He has got a cold 2 more times already, and will a lot more times in the future I know. Whether I like it or not, he likes to sleep on his tummy and crawls in his crib to a corner through the night. He has hit himself on his head, fallen down a few times already while learning to stand. It’s just part of growing up. I know once he starts walking he’ll keep falling over but will get up again and carry on about his usual business with a smile!
The ‘first year’ is a lot of exploration for the kid as well as for the Mom. No wonder there are books by experts on such stuff. As you explore your nurturing skills, you soon become an expert too, an expert on everything about ‘your’ kid. I was a paranoid Mom in the beginning (And I accept it without any hesitation!) and still sometimes I am, but I would never let that come in the way of my kid’s learning/exploring experience. From what I learned through my limited experience – for all the other new Moms out there or those who are ready to become one – ‘Enjoy’! Enjoy each and every moment with your kid, for they grow up way too fast. Every moment you enjoy with her/him will be a memory to be cherished for a lifetime.
Life is a gift. Never forget to enjoy and bask in every moment you are in. (Photo credit: Aristocrats-hat)